I am fascinated by the Supernanny. She’s the English Nanny who helps rescue people being over-run by their kids. What’s most fascinating about her is that she doesn’t have any kids, but she seems to have a good understanding of what makes kids tick. No matter how assertive she is with the children, the kids seem to love her. She knows the difference between being stern and mean. (It is TV) It just proves that kids are looking for authority figures, not friends.
This lady has good ideas. I was watching a marathon of these shows yesterday. Why I should be interested after I’m all done with mothering bewilders me. Maybe I’m just glad I didn’t live with abusive kids.
These new parents have a lot on their plates. It takes two incomes to raise kids these days. It’s a lot of responsibility, work and time. I think maybe we’ve lost sight of what’s important. I think our mothers, father, and grandparents had a better idea.
I’m not saying I was the perfect mother, far from it. Luckily, my kids came out all right, but I could have used some of the techniques I see proposed on this TV show.
Ten Valuable Techniques (I’ve watched
Supernanny teach hapless parents.)
1 .When disciplining the child, get down on their level. Have them think about what they did wrong, then have them apologize. (I actually did use this technique. It was in place in the medieval times. )
2. Put some authority in your voice, so they know you mean business.
3. Make them go in their corner or room for one minute per age.
4. If they get out of bed at night, just put them back in their beds. The first time, say something, but after that don’t talk, just put them back in bed.
5 .Don’t let them use bad language, kick, hit or abuse the parents. It should never be tolerated.
6. Keep a good routine going. Give them thing to do that they will like. (Don’t just expect toys or TV to completely entertain them.)
7 .Make sure your house is safe and that they can’t get into trouble.
8. Give them responsibility.
9. Take time to play with them.
10 Take time to listen to them.
The story that I found unbelievable was about a little boy who was clinging onto his mother. She couldn’t walk 10 feet without him putting up his arms and demanding that she pick him up. She never turned him down. He also decided what time his mom and he should go to bed. When he got tired, he happily crawled in bed with Mom and Dad (already asleep).
Supernanny gave Mom several techniques to un-cling little 2-year old. Mom was unwittingly promoting these clinging habits. Dad wasn’t helping because when he came home from work, he had transition time which never ended. He sat on a chair all night and watched TV. As soon as he became engaged with his kids, things began to improve.
It all came out all right. (At least on the TV show.) The clinging child finally went to sleep in his own bed, disengaged from his mom and stopped throwing tantrums every time she put him on the floor.
If the kids featured on Supernanny are messed up, it’s easy to see who is responsible. It usually goes back to Mom and Dad.
The parents don’t seem to have any insight in what they’re doing to create these little monsters. Some parents are afraid of their kids not liking them, some are too lazy to tend to their kid’s needs, and others just don’t know what to do.
It seems peculiar that they don’t teach these kinds of skills in school. I think it’s needed now, more than ever.