Children grow up and become instant presto friends. There’s nothing like it!


Baloon Fun Time

Baloon Fun Time (Photo credit: andreasandrews)

 

Speaking from experience, once you have a child, they make it into you heart forever. There is no getting around it.  Maybe some people can forget about their kids once they reach 18, but that would be a person who doesn’t have a soul.

 

What’s great about adult children is that you can enjoy them on an adult level. Presto, you have instant friends. You will find that they might share your taste in clothes, food, and recreational activities.

 

My daughter keeps asking me if it’s weird having a grown-up daughter. The answer is no. It’s delightful.

 

The children they were stay in your memory and are in pictures, but  you readily accept them as adults.

 

It’s a plus.

 

Having children has been a fun experience for me, and an additional joy. I never expected to get all the benefits from it.

 

When they’re little, you get to experience life from their perspective. Who doesn’t enjoy watching your child ride the merry-go round for the first time? How about going to the zoo with them? There’s nothing like that first smile. Then there’s the first step. The first step away from you. But that’s your job. To help them grow up.

 

When they grow up, you can feel proud of them and share in their accomplishments and joys. That’s just as satisfying, of course, you do share in the disappointments too. That means like everything else in life, you” take the bitter with the sweet. ”

 

All in all, I think parenthood is a rewarding experience and well-worth the hard work.

 

What do you think?

 

 

 

Don’t ever leave your key in the ignition when a toddler is in the car


The day my daughter took my her little brother for a ride in a mini-van

 

I will never forget the day my daughter figured out how to drive. She was around 3. I went in the house to get something, and left my kids in the car for only a  minute or two.  Somehow my daughter maneuvered her way into the driver’s seat. (In those days she wasn’t required to sit in a child’s seat.)  She also figured out how to turn the key sitting in the ignition of the van.

 

When I came out of the house, the big van was rolling down the driveway. My daughter looked like she wasn’t a bit surprised that she was powering the car down the driveway.  I ran to the open window of the driver’s side. I looked back. My son was in his baby seat looking like it was perfectly normal for his big sister to be driving him down the driveway.

 

I ran and tried to get to the steering wheel, but I couldn’t get to it.  The car was going very slowly. It ran over my foot. I still kept going. We went out the driveway heading for my neighbor’s car parked in their driveway across the street. I ran and ran. Finally I got to the steering wheel and pushed it toward the parked position. We were 1/2  inch from my neighbors car.

 

It was like being in the movies. I was so relieved!  The only consequence was my foot hurting for a couple of weeks.

 

But this could have been a real tragedy. A car could have been coming down the street, or she could have run into my neighbor’s car. I recently heard of a case where the outcome wasn’t so good. A woman left her key in the ignition and as a result the child had an accident and is now brain damaged. That sad story reminded me of this past incident.

Steering Wheel

Steering Wheel (Photo credit: Wikiped

 

Lesson: don’t ever leave your kid in the car by themselves with the key in the ignition. Not even for one second.

 

Kids are smarter than you think.

 

Should people ever hold grudges? Is there a time when a grudge supersedes resolving issues?


Resentment

You can’t expect to live life without running into problems. Sometimes people get so frustrated, that they decide to hold a grudge.  What’s so unsettling about a grudge is that it keeps the bitter feelings alive. It hurts all parties involved every time they think about it.

According to my New Oxford  Online Dictionary a grudge is: resentment, bitterness, rancor, pique, umbrage, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement, bad feelings, hard feelings, ill feelings, ill will, animosity, antipathy, antagonism, enmity, animus; informal a chip on one’s shoulder.

We all know about grudges. A lot of times they occur between countries. Then, what we all end up is a war. It’s like we’re all little kids saying, “I’m right, and your wrong, na, na, na, na, etc! In the meantime, many innocent people are victimized. Look at all our brave soldiers that are killed fighting meaningless wars.

Alcoholics Anonymous recognizes the destructive force that grudges have. In one of the steps, people have to apologize and make amends to people they’ve hurt.

Family Grudges Occur Too Often

It’s amazing how many grudges occur within families. You often hear about brothers and sisters turning against each other. Sometimes, if happens after a parent dies and people have to decide what to do with remaining possessions or money. I’m convinced this all  emanates from childish feelings of jealousy.

I know someone who didn’t talk to his brother for 40 years because they got into a disagreement over a bottle of wine after their father’s funeral. One brother called the other cheap and poured his inexpensive bottle down the drain Unfortunately, by the time they talked one of them had Alzheimer’s Disease and didn’t even recognize his apologetic brother.  So, it never really got settled.

If a child acted like this, we’d put them both in time-out chairs.  After the time-out was over we’d have a little talk.  We would say, “Don’t call your brother cheap, and you apologize right now.”

It takes an effort

I guess if people don’t work to resolve issues, maybe their relationship was superficial in the first place. If you sincerely cared at all about the other person, you wouldn’t let your pride get in the way.

It’s true there are some relationships not worth salvaging; for example,  people who inflict serious physical and emotional damage are not worth talking to again.

Decide if it’s worth working out

If you are feuding with someone, and care about them, this is my advice: act like a grownup and resolve the issue.

You won’t be sorry. Someday, you might even forget what the fight was about, and that it ever happened.

You’re going to gain so much more than you’ll lose

What’s the silliest grudge you ever heard of? Do you ever think it’s a good idea to hold a grudge?

Intervention: The TV Show: A Review


Meghan in jail.

If you think you’re family is bad, watch the TV show “Intervention.”  It has to make you feel better about yourself and your family. Unless, of course, you have terrible parents, and because of them, you are a hopeless drug addict.

Tonight I watched an episode about “Meghan.” When the show opens, she is walking around in jail in a yellow  jump suit. Her straggly hair is pulled back in a wild hairstyle and she looks pathetic.

Why is she in jail?  It’s because this sweet looking 24-year old girl with manacles around her feet, and hands is a heroin addict.

The person who put her in jail is a family friend who she calls “Aunt” Jan. You can’t really blame “Aunt” Jan because Megan stole her jewelry worth $5,000.00. “Aunt”Jan, who is about as warm and cuddly as a Mac truck wants to teach Meghan a lesson.

Meghan’s been arrested 24 times in the last few years for stealing and drugs. You know she’s gotten on her friend’s and family’s  “Most Wanted  List.” Apparently, she’s not as innocent as she looks.

The judge decides to give her one more chance and suspends her sentence. (As long as she stays away from drugs.)  It takes Meghan about 2 days to meet up with her drug dealer. She talks about how excited she is about her “fresh veins” because she’s been in jail for a while.  She sounds like she’s auditioning for “The Twilight” series.

The most compelling part of “Intervention” is when they give each drug addict’s biography. We learn how Meghan went from a sweet little baby to a pathetic drug addict. Meghan’s mother was a good mom until Meghan was about 13. She got angry because her husband was working all the time, and made her raise 3 kids on her own.  In order to get even with him, she left home, and she left her kids with her unfeeling creepy husband .

“Aunt” Jan stepped into help. (We don’t find out why or where she came from.)  Meghan’s mom  figured it was time for her to “get a life.”That’s bad enough, but what comes next is even worse.

Meghan’s mom finally finds the man of her dreams, and comes back to town. Meghan starts visiting her and her boyfriend. By this time, she’s 15.  Her boyfriend gets very cozy with Megan. As a matter of fact, he rapes her, then has a sexual relationship with her for 4 or 5 months. Meghan’s mom finds out, decides it’s  all Meghan’s fault,  and skips town with her boyfriend.  (What a mom!)

Megan decides to cope, the good old American way. She gets into drugs, and eventually becomes a heroin addict.

So what does Megan’s Dad do? Nothing. He doesn’t even talk about it with Meghan. (What a dad!)

The Intervention
Finally, we have “The Intervention” All these self-involved people apologize to Meghan for being so mean to her. They tell her they love her, and want her to get help. Of course, the Interventionist had to tell them to say this. They are about as loving as sticks of furniture. (Except for one of Meghan’s brothers who seems really concerned, and puts his arm around her while they are all “acting”  human).

Meghan’s father blames his parents for his creepiness. He  says “ they weren’t very emotional.”  Meghan’s mother apologizes, but it doesn’t seem genuine. She still  seems irritated at her daughter for ruining her love life.

Meghan agrees to go to treatment. What other choice does she really have? Jail or a Rehab Center? ( I doubt that her parent’s professing their love to her made much of an impression.)
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Poor Meghan only lasts in treatment for 9 days, goes home, moves in with her charming mother,  and gets in a methadone program. Now she is addicted to methadone instead of heroin.  At least it’s legal. .

I would think this is all made up except I worked  part-time in a drug and alcohol facility for several years. I know it’s real.

There really are misguided people out there who mess up their kids. Some people do get involved with the wrong crowd and it’s totally their fault. But I heard a lot of stories about unusual caregivers.  I’m convinced bad parenting can result in drug and alcohol addiction.

If you’re immature and selfish, or are a drug or alcohol addict, do everyone a favor. Use birth control and don’t have kids.

Does this show exploit people or help them?  If somehow it reaches out to others, it’s not a total loss. It might also show a person, who is fooling themselves about their addiction,  how pathetic  they look to others.

Has this show helped you or anyone you know?

What do you think?  Do these shows have any value at all? Are they dragging down society instead of lifting it up?