Why are our 21st Century Heroes so narcissistic? The Tipping Point for me: Lance Armstrong

English: Arnold Schwarzenegger in July 2003

English: Arnold Schwarzenegger in July 2003 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In the old days that I remember, our heroes were strong, humble, and caring for others.  They did not make speeches about how great they were. This might explain why so many of us admire Barack Obama. The President

Lance Armstrong getting mobbed

Lance Armstrong getting mobbed (Photo credit: ShapeThings)

English: This photo depicts Donald Trump's sta...

English: This photo depicts Donald Trump’s star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

typifies old-fashioned behavior. He isn’t big on name calling, boastfulness, and he  loves his family. He’s not afraid to tell us that either. He also manages to appeal to our human positive side too.

In contrast to him, we have a lot of boastful narcissists continually taking the spotlight. It’s good to have a good self-image, but do you have to tell everyone else about it? Can you get outside yourself for five minutes?

Then we have members of Congress, who do nothing but argue and name call, and put themselves first. No wonder we’re all so discouraged.  If you ask me, they all need a good talking to about really caring about other people. What happened to respecting the office of President of the United States? People used to do that.

Media Narcissists

The latest media boastful heroes have been Arnold Schwarzenegger, Donald Trump, and now Lance Armstrong.

Donald Trump is the example of the professional “I am great person.” I think people are finally sick and tired of him. He is nothing but a bully. He does prove the maxim if you tell people how great you are, they will believe you.

I watched “The Apprentice.” At first I thought he was nicer than people thought. But, as time went on, I realized first impressions can sometimes be correct.  He operates by telling  people how great he is, makes them call him “Mr. Trump,” and basically sets himself up as a king.

He rewards the people who are the most competitive and cut throat like him. He fought with comedienne Rosie O’Donnell by calling her names.  He challenged the President of the United States  to supply him with proof of his birth. He said “if he does this, I will contribute to the charity of his choice.” Really?

Then we  have good old Arnold Schwarzenegger walking all over Maria Shriver by fooling around right under her nose. He’s another one who managed to convince us to see his movies and elect him Governor.  Why? Because he told us he’s great and people believed him. He is trying to come back. I don’t think he’s going to make it. I think he went too far.

Now, we have Lance Armstrong. A person we thought was admirable turns out to be a pathological liar and a  bully. During his Oprah interviews he proved that he has little insight on his poor behavior and how he hurt other people. I wouldn’t be the least surprised if he comes back like other people displaying poor behavior.  Personally, I’ve had enough of him.

Yes, I’m talking about Bill Clinton. A lot of people forget he was impeached for his bad behavior.   I wonder what happened to the girl he victimized. But everyone forgave him, and he’s more popular than ever.

Maybe one day, the tide will turn. Maybe one day we’ll get back to politeness, good behavior, and acting civilized.
What do you think?

Update on Lance Armstrong

English: Lance Armstrong in the Solvang, Calif...

English: Lance Armstrong in the Solvang, California time trials. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m wondering what Lance Armstrong must be going through right now. He has to be suffering. He said it himself.  “ If it was proved that I was cheating, I’d be fired from all my contracts. It’s not about money , it’s the faith people have put in me over the years… The money is not as important as losing the support of hundreds and millions of people.” He was right. It’s happening right now.

I watched CNN’s broadcast of “The World According to Lance Armstrong on CNN. It was disillusioning to realize Lance is probably guilty. The show’s host interviewed bike racer, Tyler Hamilton, who recalled how he and Lance were re-infused with their own blood after it was fortified with more red blood cells. During the race, they shot up with special drugs. They took the vials and syringes and put them in coke cans, crushed them up, and their staff disposed of them. They even had another guys who were lookouts and drug deliverers.

Nobody had the technology to catch them cheating in the 90’s, but they preserved their urine, and can find the nasty evidence now.  Who would think they’d save their waste products, and label them?

It was more disappointing to realize that biking is completely corrupt. Everyone was doping; however Lance was really good at it. He hired doctors to help him, and even paid off the UCI, the organization that was supposedly policing them all.

If Armstrong confessed to the public, everyone would probably love him even more. Look at Bill Clinton. He was impeached for his extramarital affair with Monica Lewinsky, and people  have forgiven him. How about Tiger Woods?  After all, don’t we all make mistakes?

When they kept accusing Armstrong I was convinced he’d  won the race without cheating. I’d read his book about his fight with cancer, and how he cheated death. It was so inspiring. Now, I’m wondering how much of  it was true.

There’s no doubt that the Livestrong Foundation, his cancer foundation,  has raised millions of dollars.  If he really cared, he’d come out with the truth.  Now, is the time to prove he really is a champion.

What do you think? Should he confess? What do you think about his doping and cover-up?

Do you recall any people the public has forgiven after they lied and cheated?

Additional thoughts on January 16

Now, the public is waiting to see Armstrong’s interview on Oprah tomorrow. What is really disheartening is realizing that he wasn’t just doping, he was bullying people. (At least that’s what his buddies are saying all over the media.) Supposedly, he’s calling people and apologizing. He sounds like a crafty monster.

This is really disheartening. Everyone is saying, “don’t believe anything Lance says because he’s a liar and a bully.” I’m wondering how I’m going to react. I’m wondering how he managed to get away with this for so long?

On one hand, he did a lot of good with his foundation. On the other hand, he’s a bad guy. I’m wondering if this is why Sheryl Crow dumped him? I wonder if he’s going to garner my sympathy somehow.

What do you think?


The comeback kid does it again!


English: Official White House photo of Preside...

English: Official White House photo of President Bill Clinton, President of the United States. Русский: Президент США Билл Клинтон,официальное фото Белого Дома. Ελληνικά: Επίσημη φωτογραφία Λευκού Οίκου του Προέδρου Μπιλ Κλίντον, Προέδρου των ΗΠΑ (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Bill Clinton gave a great nomination speech. This guy amazes me. He’s been on the bottom, but manages to come out on top every time.

What a great speech!

Co-operation is a word he used when talking about the way the Republicans and Democrats need to work together.

What really bothered me is how the Republicans said their #1 job was to get rid of President Obama.

That’s the only thing they’ve been working on for the past two years.

They refuse to  co-operate.

They need a time-out, or voted out!


God, If You’re Not up There, I’m F*cked : A Review: A story about Darrell Hammond



Comedian Darrell Hammond on stage.

Comedian Darrell Hammond on stage. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Saturday Night Live (season 9)

Saturday Night Live (season 9) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

God, If You’re Not Up There, I’m F*cked, opens up in a rehab facility in New York. The author, Darrell Hammond accurately describes how awful he feels. It’s a place where celebrities go to detox. It’s not the place you’d expect to find Hammond, a well-known comedian.

Hammond, is know for his masterful impersonations. If you’re a die-hard fan of Saturday Night Live, you’ve probably seen his lip-biting Bill Clinton, scowling Dick Cheney, hyper Chris Mathews and scores of other brilliant impressions.

While reading this book, you learn that being a drug addict and alcoholic is the least of Hammond’s problems. He’s been trying to figure out what’s wrong with him since he’s been 4 or 5 years old. After he hears his own child crying,  he starts having flashbacks to his frightening childhood.   It’s then that we learn about his abusive mother.

Inadvertently, she helped Hammond develop his talent. One of the things Mom liked to do was impressions of people in the neighborhood. Hammond joined right in with Mom to distract her.

Where was Hammond’s father?  Dad had his own quirks —including war post traumatic stress syndrome. Hammond and his dad share a love of baseball which brings them together.

Hammond manages to get away from his dysfunctional family and carve out a comic career for himself.

If you’re a fan of Saturday Night Live, you’ll enjoy this insider’s look at the show.

Hammond’s recovery is a work in progress, but by the end you’re cheering for him. This is a fast read, and inspirational. If you’re a little squeamish, it might not be for you.


A trip to the Smithsonian: I liked the First Ladies’ Dresses!

Smithsonian American History Museum

Smithsonian American History Museum (Photo credit: ttarasiuk)


Kermit (Photo credit: Eva Rinaldi Celebrity and Live Music Photographer)

Flag that floated over Fort McHenry in 1814.

President Barack Obama and the First Lady Mich...
President Barack Obama and the First Lady Michelle Obama dancing at the “Obama Home States Inaugural Gala.” The event took place at the Walter E. Washington Convention Center in Washington, D.C. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Last week,  I went to the Smithsonian American History Museum in Washington, DC.  Every time I go there, I like to see The Star Spangled Banner display. It’s the actual flag that flew over Fort McHenry. They changed it around because the flag is starting to get really tattered. You can’t even take flash pictures of it anymore.

Being a child of the 50’s I like to be reminded of all the popular culture stuff  from my childhood. Everyone does like Kermit! And Dorothy’s red shoes.  Gene Autry and Dale Evans? Mouseketeers? Did you have a pair of those ears?

Being an old girly-girl, I enjoy the  display of the  First  Lady’s dresses. I wasn’t the only female looking at  them. While  many men looked at all the War stuff, the ladies were looking at the dresses. I had to wait in line.  Michelle Obama’s  gown was my favorite!  Whether you like her or not, she has got style! (i do like her.)

I did look at some of the war stuff too, although I like to honor veterans, I always feel it so unfortunate that innocent people have to die. Like we used to say, “put all the politicians and leaders into battle, and see how long it lasts.”

Here are some of my favorite pictures from my visit today!

What are your favorite things from the olden days.