10 Good reasons not to have children….some observations from a mature woman


Child 1

Child 1 (Photo credit: Tony Trần)

Let me clarify this by saying, I liked being a parent, but I’ve seen other people who shouldn’t have even thought about it for a moment.

As my children will tell you, I was not perfect, but I did my best. (Besides I had a husband who was very well-suited for the job.) I think it always helps when there are two of you, but I guess it’s not necessary.

Here are my observations. I can do this because I am very mature, and don’t care what anyone thinks.

I invite you to agree or disagree with me!

Don’t have kids if…..

1. You are basically selfish. There’s no room for selfishness here, only unselfishness.

2. You are trying to save your marriage. Children will topple over a shaky marriage, and it’s not fair to bring them into a bad situation. Only bring children into a good situation.

3. You are lonely…. get a dog or cat instead. They can’t speak, and will give you unconditional love.

4. You have a low-level of frustration. Nothing will try your patience more than little kids. Your frustration will plunge to depths you didn’t know existed. (However, if you’re lucky their cuteness will keep you from losing it altogether. I guess it’s nature’s way.)

5. You just want to dress them up like a little doll. Chances are they won’t share your taste. This preference for clothing shows up quite early in life. When they figure out what you like, they’ll go the opposite direction. (Besides when they’re infants they may spit up on the outfit.)

6. You are lonely. Don’t put another person in charge of keeping you from loneliness. It isn’t fair, and it doesn’t really work.  (Have you seen Octomom, she looks very busy! As you can see if you read the link attached to this, she’s resorted to porn.)

7.  You want to live as a millionaire. (Does this really need an explanation?)

8.  You want a friend . Good parents look at their children as their responsibilities not as friends. You want to fit in with your friends who have children. Your children might not get along with your friend’s kids. Then, you won’t see them at all.

9, You want someone to give you comfort in your old age. Sometimes that works, other times, they may live on the other side of the world. You shouldn’t bring people into the world to take care of you.

10. You freak out when you hear a lot of noise, or smell unpleasant odors.  Be prepared to be around a lot of noise and smells, at least in the formatiive years.  Sitting in a quiet odorless room may be a rare pleasure.

Any additions to this list. Feel free!

Mike Wallace dead at 93


Mike Wallace (journalist)

Mike Wallace (journalist) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I just read the news, Mike Wallace dead at 93. He was a real character, and I’ve been watching him on TV and the news for a majority of my life.

I remember watching “60 Minutes” with my parents when I lived at home. I’d was a Senior in high school when the first “60 Minutes” aired in 1968. I enjoyed Wallace’s probing interviews. He got right at the truth. At the time I was only 18. My parents and I would watch “60” minutes together every week. It was family time for us.

I feel like I did when Walter Cronkite and David Brinkley died. When there were disastrous or life changing events, these were the guys who first gave me the news. They were more than fleeting images on a TV screen. I feel like I lost an old family friend.

It was a different world back when I watched the news as a kid.  We only had 1/2 hour of national TV news a night, and we waited for it. It’s not like today when you can put on the TV and get your news over and over. It’s not like the internet which is where I first found out about his death. Yes, things have drastically changed.

Over the years I watched him intimidate people when he interviewed them, and got them to say things they didn’t really want to say. You had to admire his style. He was one tough guy. He took on  Khomeini, and Russian President, Putin. He didn’t seem to be afraid of anyone.

But when he got involved in a lawsuit when General Westmoreland was suing” 60 Minutes”about a story about Vietnam, he underwent a bout of depression. It was hard to believe that such an outwardly tough guy was vulnerable to such a human disease. He publicly stated that he used antidepressants to keep it under control. I admired him for making it public.

He talked about how the death of his son, Peter, during a hiking accident in 1962 motivated him to take his journalism job more seriously because Peter also wanted to be a journalist. (Wallace had hosted game shows, and appeared on TV. He wasn’t just a journalism guy in the beginning of his career).

Wallace is the last of a generation that I got my news from. It makes me sad.

How do you feel when a public figure that you identified with passes away. Any feelings about Mike Wallace’s death?