Do you practice age discrimination against your peers and yourself?


A beautiful, positive woman. my 93-year old Aunt Ruth

In this youth oriented society, it is not cool to be old. As someone I know said, It’s knowing what comes next.”

After turning 64 last year, I got the nerve to go into a Senior Center in my suburb which is mainly conservative. Not exactly my cup of tea, but why not?

I asked the director, “Am I too young to join this place.” She looked at me with a funny look; probably because I am way over 55 and don’t look as young as I think I do. So, I joined.

I joined the Senior Chorus, and its been a fairly good experience. They go sing at nursing homes

and rehab centers twice a month. I get to go out in the audience and talk to the people. It is community service. The people in the chorus are pretty nice, and it is fun. The music is just as old as the chorus, but there has only been one song in a year I never heard before. Most of the other songs I already know by heart. I know anyone under 50 would probably not know all the words like I do.

I am still not accepting my age.

Today, I went to a style show at the Center and positivity shone through 

Some members were  modeling clothes from a thrift store that gives their proceeds to cancer.

First, we said the “Pledge of Allegiance” which I haven’t said in a long time. (I wonder if my kids learned the words in school because they don’t say it anymore at schools.)

We ate this great meal because they all brought homemade stuff. Who can argue with that? I, not being exactly a cooking person, bought store-bought sugar-laden cookies.

A group from the chorus came out and sang an old song. They also did a little dance. One of the audience members was quietly laughing at them which I resented. It might not have been Broadway worthy, but at least they were trying!

The ladies came out and modeled the clothes, and they looked like a million bucks. They stood up straight acted proud, and smiled. Some of them wore those clothes beautifully. You still can look good after the age of 65. I guess it all has to do with a positive attitude.

The last model came out in a walker, and lip synced to the song, “Second Hand Rose.” That was a lady with a positive attitude and spirit. She was really giving it all she had.

Suddenly, I looked around and realized, like it or not, I fit in with this group. I am no spring chicken, but that doesn’t mean I’m less valuable than people younger than me. I think it’s too bad that this society devalues age so much, and I have to feel this way.

Inside I don’t feel old because I am physically active, and don’t take tons of medicine. I use exercise and singing as my defense against physically falling apart, and so far it’s working!

What do you think? How do you think people should accept their age. Should they join places like Senior Centers, or is that admitting you’re over the hill?

The enclosed picture is of a close relative of mine who is 93 years old. She has always looked at the bright side of life, and it shows.

What happens at a Harmony Project rehearsal? Another Harmony Project post


October 29
Tonight was another night with The Harmony Project It was also a night when storms were blowing a little stronger than usual, but nothing was going to stop me from going to that rehearsal. Good things transpire at Harmony Project Rehearsals.  I wasn’t going to miss out!

The Harmony Project is a volunteer choir that sings and shares.  Sharing is simple. You just do a volunteer project. It doesn’t require a lot of time.  At the end of a “semester,” you get to appear in a show at a great venue  in the downtown Columbus, Ohio, area.  Another bonus of being in this choir is appearing with a first class professional band with great musicians

Members of the choir love doing those shows!   It’s usually a love fest between the choir and the audience. Everyone seems to have a good time.

Tonight’s Rehearsal
I was really feeling down in the dumps when I walked in the door tonight.  I was going to sit in the back of the room. After I walked in, someone I barely knew invited me to sit down next to them.  Right away, I started feeling a little bit better.  The Idea about sitting in the back of the room was gone.  (After the rehearsal starts, we usually introduce ourselves to three people we don’t know. It takes time to know 200 people. ) After I did that, I was feeling even more upbeat.

We all started singing our first song. By the time I was done singing that song, I felt downright happy. Singing is good for the soul. There’s nothing better than singing the same words with over 200 people.

The Pied Piper of the Harmony Project
I guess you could say another one of the reasons the Harmony Project is such a success  is the Musical Director, David Brown. He is energetic and  knows how to make rehearsing fun,  and sometimes inspiring.

Tonight, one highlight was when we sang a Beth Neilson Chapman song we’re going to sing in the December show. It’s all about finding the light. The lights went out, and I thought the high winds had knocked out the power, but it was David trying to get us to concentrate on the meaning of the song.  Not only that, he pulled a member of the choir out front to share a personal experience about what it means to really see the light. She is blind, so she talked about what it means to see with your heart.

A little boy inspires me

Next thing I knew, one of the members of the choir asked, “ Is there an age limit on who can sing in the choir? We’ve got someone giving it all they got.”   I looked up and saw the most adorable little boy sitting  in an area that is above our rehearsal room.   As I watched him, I noticed how enthusiastically he was singing along. I knew he must be a choir member’s child .

Finally, the rehearsal was over. I saw the little boy out in the lobby with his mom and sister.  “How do you know all the words?” I asked.  He broke out in the biggest smile, dimples and all. “We practice the CD  in the car,” he said.  I told him he inspired me, and it was the honest truth.

All of this transpired in an hour and a half. It was worth the trip!

See the Harmony Project perform on December 19 or December 20th at The Southern Theater! Get tickets through CAPA

A few members of The Harmony Project 200 member choir.

It’s Great to Call Columbus, Ohio, Home: Another Harmony Project post


]I am fortunate to live in Columbus. Why, because I am in a group called the Harmony Project.

Today, we gave a concert that we’ve been practicing for since February. It’s now July 18.

With a group of 200, we sounded really good. It was just fantastic. I’ve been in the group for 2 years, and this particular concert was the best ever.

Nobody in the group has to audition. I’ve listened to a lot of people in the group sing, and I haven’t heard anyone who can’t at least carry a tune. Some of the people in the group are musicians, and naturally some are better than others. Others are just ordinary people like me.

The director of the group, David Brown, is the secret ingredient. I don’t know how he does it, but this guy is loaded with charisma. Not only does he have charisma, but he has the largest heart in the world.  He knows how to motivate others, and let me tell you, he does it. You can attend a rehearsal feeling horrible, but by the time you leave you feel optimistic again. It’s like having a little shot of positivity.

He started the choir because he wants to help other people. There’s nothing more to it. He wants to raise money to help people and the city of Columbus, Ohio.  He uses the choir as a vehicle to do this. We sell tickets to the concert, but in the meantime we all have to do some kind of “sharing” project. Some people share more than others.

There are other fundraising projects and big sponsorships that are now in the mix.

One of the things, we as a group, want to do is end homelessness. We raise money for the Columbus Shelter Board, and we’re doing it. Not only that, we’re  including people who are getting second chances into the choir.

You know, all of them are really talented in their own ways. Most of the ones in this particular group, the Unison Project, had responsible jobs before they were down on their luck. You can see all their leadership skills and creative talents blossoming again. It’s a great thing to watch.

Anyway, we had a concert tonight, and it was beautiful. The crowd loved it. We loved the crowd. It was great!

It doesn’t hurt that there are some professional musicians in town who are in the band that accompanies us. They are all fantastic!

There’s one more concert on Thursday. Then it will be over, but only for a little while. We’ll have another concert in September.

I’m glad David Brown decided to make Columbus his home.

Addition: Tonight there was another concert! I had the most fun I’ve ever had. What an enthusiastic audience. It was great!

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Creative Giving: Another Harmony Project Post


Here’s another post about the versatile Harmony Project in Columbus, Ohio. It’s the organization that can do and does! We get to sing in a harmonious choir, give performances and make all kinds of new friends. There is commitment involved, but nobody minds. Sing, serve, and share is the motto.

Today was a spa day for the Unison Project, an essential part of the choir.  The people who belong to the Unison Project live in housing, especially sponsored by the Columbus Shelter Board http://www.csb.org.  There are people who have been homeless, but have the courage to take the opportunity to improve their lives. (Not all have been homeless, some have disabilities and other problems that qualify them to live in the facilities.)

Today, a generous spa, the  Ericka Taylor Salon and Spa donated their  services to members of The Unison Project.

They received manicures, facials, hair treatments —color, cuts, blowouts, highlights —and were photographed when it was all over. All the professionals in the spa donated their services. They worked their magic, and brought out the beauty of each person. People left the salon with a glow and a new look.

The pros at the spa did their work with joy. It was inspirational. They were even kind enough to throw in a few manicures to some of the other members of the Harmony Project.

First, we all had a delicious meal “The Little Palace” located on S. Fourth Street.  I would highly recommend that eatery . It was simply delicious.

David Brown, of The Harmony Project planned the whole outing. He did it with great style.

You can still buy tickets for The Harmony Project on July 18, and 19th!  Go to CAPA. It will be a great concert, and you can catch the joy!

It will bounce off the walls of the Southern Theater!

Pictures generously provided by Michelle Herman and Jan Leibovitz Alloy

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