Backwards Living: What happened to good taste?


Anything goes these days, but if you comment on it, you’re the bad guy. It seems to me that outrageous behavior has become acceptable. If you say it’s gauche or in bad taste people look at you like your crazy. It seems to me that good manners is quickly becoming a thing of the past.

I don’t even want to imagine what it’s like in the schools these days. I’m wondering if they’re giving the teachers detentions instead of the students. From my past experience, I know a shift in power was taking place about 10 years ago.

Everyone is casual and comfortable

Go to the theater any day of the week. It doesn’t matter how much people pay for tickets, they are never dressed up at all. They are dressed up for the ballet the same way as they are for a comedian.

Some people do look nicer than others, but it doesn’t seem like they took a lot of time to get ready. There still are some cute, fancy heels that go along with the jeans. Dresses for women seem to be out of style. Maybe that’s just goes with equality, but I do miss them.

I guess they are all “comfortable”, but I do miss the days when people looked really special for special events.

Maybe in a couple of decades we’ll all run around naked, and get rid of clothes altogether. It will be easier on the bank account. We will all be more comfortable, except in the winter! Maybe then we’ll wear a big easy blanket that we put over our heads.

Spoken language is on the decline
Language sure has changed too. Just watch a movie from the 20’s, 30’s or even 40’s, 50’s, or even early 60’s. If this was reflective of society, people spoke in a more courteous way. I do know language has definitely been on the decline in the last few decades. When you’re hearing it in all the media, of course, you’re not going to speak in a thoughtful way.

I’m not saying that life was good for minorities or people who were different in the good old days. I’m glad people are more accepting of differences.

I think one of the casualties of all this acceptance and tolerance is good taste. Just look at afternoon TV. Dr. Phil features the most immoral weird people, and how about the shows that center on finding “the real fathers” of children.

If you express your opinion about much of anything that is against the present norms, you’re looked at like you’re intolerant.

It seems like things have totally gotten backwards. Isn’t there a good balance somewhere?

What do you think?

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Book Review: Ted Williams A Golden Voice


A pile of crack cocaine ‘rocks’
c A pile of crack cocaine ‘rocks  These rocks ruin lives.

If you want an eyewitness account of life on the streets, read A Golden Voice by Ted Williams.

Williams was a successful radio DJ in Columbus on several reputable  stations for about 10 years.  He knew he had a “golden voice” when he was a youngster, and he worked at perfecting his voice, and thinking of ways to be on the radio.

It paid off when he got an opportunity to be on one of the big stations in Columbus, and shot to the top. (twice).

He threw it all away when he got hooked on crack.

He managed to get clean for short periods a couple of times, but whenever things got rough, he’d relapse.  Like many crack addicts, he spent time chasing that first high. In his case, he chased it for more than 20 years. Like others,  he never found it. What he found was poverty, depression, humiliation, homelessness and lots of jail time. He hurt some people along the way. Some have forgiven him, others are still working on it. At least his mother— at 90—finally can feel hopeful.

Williams was adopted by people who really wanted him. His mother, in particular, made sure he had a lot of opportunities in life. His relationship with his  late father was much rockier. It was no accident that his dad named him after the famous baseball player, Ted Williams. However, he never lived up to his famous name.

He was already an alcoholic when he joined the army.  He parted ways with the US army for working some scams and drinking too much. He got a dishonorable discharge.

He gets more than once chance to get away from crack, but every time he manages some sobriety, he ends up relapsing. His nickname was “relapse Ted.”  As most of us know by now, crack is very addictive.

He is co-dependent with a woman who prostitutes herself so they can smoke crack together. Her story is included. She tells it like it is.  It’s not a pretty picture.

After years of being homeless, and doing whatever he could think of to make money for crack, he finally starts begging an hour a day on the street corner where he was videotaped by a Columbus Dispatch reporter. He was whisked to California after the YouTube video went viral.

I saw him at person at Barnes and Noble in Columbus where he was promoting his book.   Some people were there because they were related to someone who is addicted to a drug, and were looking for hope. Some were there because they’ve lived his story. Others, were just curious.

He spent time talking to anyone who wanted to speak to him. He seemed sincere about wanting to help others.

He was doing a quite a bit of preaching in between talking about his book. His faith is a big part of his recovery.  When you do read the book, you get 90% story, and 10% talk about faith.

Dr. Phil did give him another chance at rehab when he decided he was serious. He financed another stint in rehab.  He’s been clean for 14 months

This should be required reading for social workers, or anyone working with drug addicts. It is honest.

I sincerely hope he makes it this time.

Even though this book is not for the squeamish or judgmental,  it is inspirational in its own way.

Any opinions about Mr. Williams?  I would be interested to find out what you think?