Remembering those Special Times Can Bring You Joy


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I decided to make a list of the moments in life I treasure.  You know, the happy times in your life. Even in the most miserable of lives, there has to be moments to treasure. I like to think about these moments every once in a while. It brings me a little bit of joy!

One of those moments includes being alone with my parents when I was about 6. I remember holding their hands, and being lifted in the air. My husband and I later did it with our  own children. And I saw a little girl at Cedar Falls being given the same treatment the other day.

Not one of those moments had anything to do with getting something materialistic.

It all had to do with family and love— Giving love, or being loved.  Or helping someone else.

Why do we think things will make us happy? If they do, it’s only for a  few minutes.  Get a new car, it might make you feel good for a week or two. By the time the new car smells wears off Then, the newness wears off, and that’s the end of it.

Of course we need to get our basic needs me, food, shelter, and clothing.

A lot of it has to do with helping other people, or making them happy.

Just something to think about….

You have any special moments you’d like to share?

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10 top reasons a Baby Boomer still misses her mother


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My mother died 5 years ago. She died a day before Mother’s Day. (It wasn’t this exact date, but close enough). I still miss her all the time. I miss her when I have some good news to tell her. I miss her when I just want to talk. How many of us will dial the phone number after someone we loved has died just to hear it ring? I don’t do it any more, but I did for a little while after she died.

Here are my top 10 reasons for missing her.

  • 1. She loved me unconditionally, and I loved her back.
  •  2. She was a good listener.
  • 3. she was a link to my past although she started to forget it at the end. She called me by my childhood nickname.  I miss hearing her say it.
  • 4. She appreciated any little thing I did for her, no matter how trivial.
  • 5. She still tried to mother me any chance she got. One time the apartment she lived in sent up some extra food for her, and she asked me if I wanted it. (It was sweet).
  • 6. She was always happy and excited to see me.
  • 7. She was someone I could be around without watching everything I said.
  •  8. We had fun together. We loved to go to restaurants together. By the end of her life, that’s about all she could still do.
  •  9. She cared about my kids and husband and  always treated them like royalty.
  •  10. It still kept my father alive in some way. She never forgot stories about him. My only hope is that they’re together somewhere in some way.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom wherever you are!

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